The following blog entry is generally about relationships. This first one is focused particularly on the transformation process from living the single life to being in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. The second one is focused on moving on from a past relationship. As a side note a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship may or may not be long-term or "serious". One can think of it as more of a title that is mutually agreed upon by the relevant individuals and define their dynamics by their actions and strong opinions.
I am bothered at the fact that I do not seem to have--at least at the moment--a major activity or hobby that I could be doing outside of school. Nor do I have anything very interesting or unique that I can claim my world. Although one could argue that activities I enjoy such as playing basketball, going to the gym, or having a good time with friends are interesting, I do not allocate enough hours for each individual activity to deem it my "life outside of school". Some have hiking, mountain climbing, swimming, fencing, etc. These are examples of activities or hobbies which I consider worthy of committing countless hours on and claiming it to be your "life outside of school". I have not taken up these are activities or hobbies . I then asked myself: What does my life revolve around? My world, right now, revolves around school. Fortunately, I think many other college students are in the same position. My so-called "world" is school, call it lame or anything, but that is what I have programmed to do for 14 years, it is what this chapter of my life is about , I have grown to like it, and I am good at it. Plus I have a goal that requires for me to go to school and get an education.
When one meets a potential significant other, one person will want to share their world; we share our worlds with one another given that we have worlds to share. It is probably common that when college students get into a relationship, they should not expect that others know what they want or know what their world is to even claim a world of their own. Take two single individuals for example. What if they cannot share their single life or so-called "world" with each other--for reasons previously discussed--then what do they do? Maybe just share, learn, have as much fun as possible with each other, and do things together. Do all these things while you still have each other and are still compatible with each another before you change (since we change due to many sociological factors).
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When a person gets in a relationship, both persons get so much from the each other. When a person changes for the better, learns something useful, or gains something valuable just by being with their significant other, then one should be happy from all these invaluable benefits. The key to appreciating and maintaining relationships is to realize and never forget these benefits. Part of the reason why everything is not lost--nor is time lost--in a real relationship is because of these benefits. Granted that the couple was happy, had good times, and had another person they needed who possessed qualities that complemented their own. It is also quite possible that the person that complements them will only do so at that particular time/stage in their life. Although what if one believed that their previous girlfriend was the one, then that might lead to looking for a new girlfriend that is very similar to the previous one (while keeping in mind the factors related to your previous girlfriend's personality/beliefs that may have caused the initial break up and choosing a person accordingly by avoiding the same mistake twice).
After a break up, one should think of it as the next step to something new, different, and possibly better. This will help you move on to the next chapter in your life (whether or not it includes a relationship soon after). Having filed your void or got what you needed from that person, one can justify moving on from the past relationship to the next person that can help you in life (whether it is to help you better yourself or reach some of your personal goals). One must keep in mind that a relationship must help them in some way and that one benefits from it because otherwise it would not be worth it.
Lastly, I'd like to ask another question: "What if you got all you needed in the particular person you found?"
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It's awkward because it's not completely settled.
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